Calm, supportive, nurturing, and non-judgemental.  I’m not one to toot my own horn, but these are some of the words past and current clients use to describe me.

I guess that’s what has helped me succeed in business since 2014.  But in reality, it was only a few years ago that I actually started to believe what everyone was saying to me. Why? All my life, I’ve been told Sarah will only be good enough as a Secretary. Sarah should do this more, Sarah should do that more.  Career advisers telling my parents she’s not suitable enough to be a teacher, typing and shorthand will hold her in good stead for the future.  I was bullied through my school days, struggled with getting my words right in social situations, which caused me to become an introvert.

I tried many different social situations, put myself out there.  Made friends despite them not being the right ones for me, even clung to people who never lifted me up. This carried over into adult life.  Don’t get me wrong.  We had a great childhood and didn’t want for anything in terms of a roof over my head and family holidays down the Victorian coast, more than many other families, but the emotional connection from what parents usually provide and friendships was missing.

So, I latched on to the first guy who was besotted with me and we became inseparable.  We met one month before my 18th birthday and I was married not long after I turned 21, then set up home, had lots of fun, bought our first house, did all the usual things; but not having previous serious relationships to go off, I just became compliant.

In the years that followed, we had two kids, spent ten years as a stay-at-home Mum, and then when the youngest started prep decided to train as an integration aide, then re-entered the workforce and realised what am I doing staying in an unhappy marriage?

So, in May 2010 I announced it was over and then my contract was not renewed and I shit myself!!  Can I do this and survive? Will I be able to manage financially? Don’t get me wrong, my husband was a great provider and I ran the household, but I didn’t have an equal footing emotionally…that I craved big time! I didn’t have a voice either.  I was always being corrected and sadly I could see my husband was his Father’s Son and I’d watched my ex-in-laws live like that, and didn’t want that.  When I’d try to stand up for myself in front of them, it didn’t go down well.  I didn’t want my daughters learning this pattern of behaviour for their futures.

Again, friendships were thin on the ground as some wondered why I left what they thought was a happy marriage so started hanging out with ‘new friends’ and I was so desperate to fit in I just became compliant and did everything they enjoyed to keep up.

Then at the beginning of 2024 I was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD, then six months later,  after a falling out a while ago I finally sought out some intensive therapy and discovered I also had what’s called RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria).  It’s not an official diagnosis, it can’t be written on a piece of paper as such, but boy it made so much sense going back to my childhood! And I have menopause to thank for bringing it all to the fore for me.

So, after much studying, doing further work on me I now know how to manage my emotions, work through these feelings and stop hiding under the doona and cancelling my day when it all turns to shit.

So, if you’re ready to find your courage, create your strength to find your freedom, let’s have a conversation and book in your call today!

Some other important info about me.  Mum to two gorgeous daughters. Follower of the mighty Saints. A lover of books and great company. Love binging great shows on TV and when I really have the time, the knitting needles come out.

Qualifications:

• Certificate of Education Support
• Certificate IV Business Administration
• Diploma of Management
• Cert IV Transport and Logistics, (driving instructor, manual and auto)
• Cert IV Training and Assessment
• Certificate of Mental Health First Aid
• Working with Autism spectrum disorder Certificate
• Coping skills and self-care for Mental Health Certificate
• Emotional Intelligence: Master anxiety, fear, and emotions Certificate
• Comprehensive PTSD Certificate
• Life Coach – Achology.
• Diploma of Counselling – M.A.C.A. (Level 1)
• Trauma -Informed Coach – The Centre for Healing
• Life Coach – Beautiful You Coaching Academy
• Represented – Diversity – Equity – Inclusion course.
• Women’s Circle facilitator
• Wise Circle facilitator